A Sense of Knowing
A Sense of Knowing
There is something deep within us. We call it Trust, Faith, Knowing or Intuition. It doesn’t matter what we call it, we all have it. This knowing comes from our soul, from the deepest most authentic part of us. It is a voice that struggles to be heard above the thoughts in our heads. The question is, do you listen? Do you acknowledge this voice, this knowing?
How different would Life look if we Trusted more?
I have been playing a game of tug-of-war with myself over this very subject for, well, pretty much years. You see, I have an instinctual ‘knowing’ inside me and I also have a very loud voice in my head. The two don’t see eye to eye! I am on the side of the knowing but being tugged by the voice.
I’m sure I am not alone here but I feel like life has cut us out into cookie cutter molds of what we ‘should’ be. The problem is we’re all different flavours on the inside. So, to clear up my analogie, we ‘know’ one thing while our minds ‘preach’ another thing. We go through life questioning why we question! It’s a mess!
Start with Questioning your Thought Patterns
The reason we don’t trust our ‘Knowing’ is that we have been hardwired to think the same way that every single other person on the planet thinks. When our own inner voice whispers to us we brush it off because it goes against the mold. The years of living life by the rules. Our true self feels like the one that is wrong, that needs to be pushed aside. So, that is what we do.
There are a million examples of this for a million different types of people but we all instinctually know what this is if we stop and pay attention. When you make a decision that causes your heart to ache but your mind is telling you it’s the right thing to do. Chances are, you got it wrong. Your heart is always the voice to listen to.
Learning to live According to our Emotions
This is not a free pass to let loose when you are feeling angry, this is about learning to process emotions and understand why they are coming up in the first place. When we can do this we are more able to find ourselves in a place of understanding and eventually, more able to make decisions on how to move forward.
For example, your best friend gets accepted into Art School and you find yourself feeling resentful of her. Is your emotion trying to tell you that you have an unexplored interest in the same career choice? Have you been denying yourself because you’ve been told you should be doing something else, or you didn’t believe you were good enough? This is just one example to get you to think about what triggers you. Think about the situations that stir emotions in you. Is there something deeper behind these emotions? Is there a voice, a knowing, that is trying to send you a message?
Understand how you have Lost that Sense of Knowing
With so much pressure to stay in our mold there is a certain amount of guilt attached to breaking away, to choosing ourselves. Understand that you are separate from these people and their ideas, no matter how much you love them. There are plenty of good intentions that have led to a life separate from that sense of knowing that is there to guide us. Our job is to learn to recognize where this has happened in our own lives.
When you realize this has happened try to look at it from a gentle perspective. Understand that most of the time this molding and re-direction is not even intentional. We live in a world that puts more value on one career choice versus another. With the best of intentions we are pushed towards ‘being our best’. Unfortunately the results is far too many people living a life that is against this sense of inner knowing and more in line with what the world deems worthy.
Understand that you are not Wrong for Choosing Yourself
Now that we know how we find ourselves on a path we didn’t choose for ourselves we can start to make a shift. We can start to pay more attention to the butterflies, aches and nagging voice that is our truth! The sense of knowing will always be there nagging at you. When you get up to go to that job that wasn’t meant for you something will feel wrong inside. It is time to choose you.
Feeling like you are letting down the people in your life is never going to be easy, but letting down yourself is so much worse. The problem is we don’t realize how much worse it is. We are faced with the disappointment from the outside world in its very tangible way. Our own inner disappointment is locked up inside, hidden away and denied. But, fighting against your own truth can never be the right thing to do. This is literally YOUR TRUTH we are talking about. The entirety of who you are meant to be on this earth. Denying this causes an unrest in your soul. No amount of trying to be a good parent, child or employee will ever heal the wound of denying your true self.
Be kind to Yourself during the Process
For many people this will not be an easy process. There is a lot of soul searching, a lot to think about. You need to sort through the messages from the outside world and the messages from your intuition. You need to fit them into categories to understand where they are coming from, ie. Societies influence, good intentions, soul led etc. Once you have a better understanding of how your life was shaped, and what your sense of knowing is trying to reveal to you, you can start looking at making a change.
This change can include having difficult conversations, it can involve career changes, it can mean taking on studies in a whole new field or opening a business you’ve been dreaming of. These are almost certain to be challenging, but in order to be true to yourself you have to take that very first step. Know that you are worth it, know that being true to yourself is the only true way to live this one life. After all, no matter how much we might love those around us, we are only living this life for our own experience. Let’s make sure it’s the best one possible!
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I think the world has made us feel guilt that should not even be there sometimes. Now with everything being so instant with social media we are expected to know all and react to all, where before there. was a plausible deniability to everyday life.
Absolutely, we feel so much guilt. We need to learn to separate the outside influences from what is true to ourselves.
Ah yes then there is find our true selves not just the one people want to see, of the one we think people want to see, or the one we are told to be. Then we have to just be comfortable in our our skin as well, which is hard with the world constantly telling you are never good enough, LOL am I right? Man is our own worst enemy…
Yes, man is it’s own worst enemy! That’s why the sooner we learn to trust ourselves the better. Thanks for your comment Jen 🙂
Beautiful, I am currently working on trusting my intuition more x
Me too, I love that it is something we can tune into and strengthen as we go!
This is so true, so many of us do what we think we ‘should’ be doing rather than what we truly desire. I read recently about ‘essence’ vs ‘script’ – we are conditioned to follow a script rather than live out our true essence. Thanks for sharing this ?
Oh, yes! We are totally living according to a script, I love hearing it put that way. We have to learn to write our own script!
Beautiful post. I am working on trusting my intuition more. We need to not feel guilty about doing for ourselves and making ourselves happy.
I couldn’t agree more. I think the more that we trust ourselves the more we learn to allow those around us to trust themselves and a ripple effect begins!
You have a beautiful mind … love how you express this knowing and the denying of our inner knowing.
Much of society is based on structuralist thinking that says authority knows better, the experts know what’s best for us and we are classed and defined according to cultural and societal values that are not always aligned with our own values.
I prefer to see myself as the author of my own story, me defining the narrative of my life. … the post structuralist way where we define ourselves and our own unique knowledge is honoured and respected as you’ve described in this piece … ?
Thank you so much for your kind words, Karletta, it means a lot! I agree 100% with what you are saying, we need to step away from ‘expectations’ and learn to trust our own choices.
This is such an educational post. I’ve been learning to listen to my soul lately, understanding emotions and all and it is a wonderful journey. Thanks for sharing
Thanks for reading, Julian, I’m so glad you found it helpful 🙂
Wonderful reading! Made me think about self reflection and introspection. Yes we have come a long way from knowing and the answer is within us, we just have to find that inner voice and peace
Well said, Nishtha, the answers really are within us 🙂
I understand exactly how you feel. I make many changes in my life and right now I feel like it is time to make a huge change. Move to a different country and start a new career. The career is something I feel like I should be doing. I have had this feeling for almost 20 years, but have yet to act upon it.
I think this is a good example of when you need to trust that intuition! Sometimes it can nag at us for a long time because we push against it, that is a good indication that it is time to listen. All the best!
It is the difference between intuition and logic. I have been trained to do logic more throughout my education and career. But I have retired and I am glad to reacquaint myself with intuition!
I think sometimes its more about the influence of society than logic necessarily. Our intuition will always lead us to what is good and right for us where society doesn’t always do that.
A sense of knowing can be seen from different angles and opinions. I feel that knowing oneself first, helps much in life. EQ is great!
I think we often don’t realize the influence that society has on our idea of ‘knowing’ ourselves, this is why we need to listen more closely to our intuition and inner voice. As you said, know yourself first! 🙂
Choosing ourselves is doesn’t have to feel wrong. But it’s an amazing journey when we go through these paths and a sense of knowing. And I completely agree, it involves many changes–including career changes sometimes.
100%! It pretty much always encourages some type of change/growth in your life. Thanks for reading!