I often write about self-love and the value there is in loving yourself. What we don’t often discuss is how we get to self-love. In other words, what are the steps to get there when we don’t even feel like we ‘like’ ourselves? This is about answering the question – how to like yourself the way you are?
Before I even start this conversation, I have to make reference to one of my favourite quotes. It is ‘be the change you wish to see in the world’ by Mahatma Ghandi. I’m starting with this because I believe if we step inside the change, ie. be the change, we can become a powerful force of our own.
In other words, we need to understand that the change starts with us. If you want to be the change you want to see in the world, you first need to make a decision to grow. And all growth begins with change. The way I see it, change is good for the soul. It livens things up a bit, adds a bit of spice (you can call it fear if you like, but I don’t find that useful, lol). In this blog I’ll be looking at some of the more positive takeaways and trying to put those nasty’s into perspective.
If you’re thinking ‘I already know myself’, I would like to suggest that we can ALL get to know ourselves on a deeper level through the practise of journaling daily. It goes without saying that understanding ourselves on a deeper level gives us the knowledge to live a more well rounded and happy life. Plus, journaling is free, so you have nothing to lose by trying it out.
You can be a creative person and you can be a spiritual person, but have you spotted the connection between the two? I’m here to argue that you simply cannot be fully in your creative expression without connecting to your creative soul and to your source. Big statement, yes? This is my personal perspective, and experience, of the beautiful thing that is creative expression!
Setting boundaries for our relationships can be a stressful and uncomfortable thing to do. But, we need boundaries. Without them we become doormats, no matter how much our family or friends love us. Setting boundaries is part of establishing healthy relationships. So best to get it out of the way!
This is about finding a balance between what works for us and what works for the other people in our lives. You can call it a balance of power if you will. Essentially this is what is happening; we are making sure the power is not leaning more towards one party. It is about developing a relationship based on mutual respect. One where both parties can thrive and be happy.
Self-Care is seen as a bit of a luxury, let’s be honest. It’s seen as hours spent in front of the mirror applying masks, creams and make-up. Or, foot spa’s and massages. First of all, provided you aren’t spending more time on this than your everyday responsibilities, what’s wrong with any of this?! Nothing. What I’m here to talk about, though, is where the lines get blurred between what I call Self-Care and what I call Self-Love. We are talking about learning to love yourself. Self-Love is foundational. It is essential. And, it is sorely lacking in most of us. Let’s chat Self-Love!
We hear about our thoughts changing our lives all the time. My question is, is there really something to this idea of change your thoughts change your life? Is this realistic? Even feasible? Let me start by saying this. I believe our thoughts are probably the most powerful tool in our toolbox. Absolutely everything starts with our thoughts. The key is to consciously choose them instead of letting them float in and out, hanging around and taking up space where they are not welcome (and have little or no value).
So, I’ve written a letter to my younger self, but what about writing to my future self? What would a letter like that look like? What could you possibly say? I mean, you haven’t got a clue about what’s ahead of you, it’s not like you could give your future self any advice, right? Well, hear me out. This letter is about helping you create a vision of the person you want to be. It’s kind of like a visualization technique. Read More
Jealousy is considered a negative emotion, right? It doesn’t exactly give you those warm and fuzzy feelings. But, what if we flipped the switch on jealousy? Do you think putting a positive spin on jealousy is doable, or are you rolling your eyes right now? It’s always a good thing to find the positive side to life, am I right? I hope to give you something to think about, even where the green-eyed-monster is concerned.
This is an argument for taking it easy! I want us to question the constant push for productivity and whether it’s actually the best way to ‘get things done’. Or, is there another, possibly better way? What if we looked at this from a different perspective? What if working from a place of ease and flow is actually a more productive way to work?
