Do You Need To Master Your Emotions?
What is the Purpose of our Emotions?
Managing vs Mastering
Stop Seeing your Emotions as a Weakness
Master your Emotions of Anger
Anger feels ick. It makes us feel out of control and weak. And, it absolutely needs to be managed! But, there is always a reason for our anger. Believe it or not, most of the time it actually has little to do with the issue at hand. Our anger is like a domino. It wasn’t really set off by the last domino in the row but by the original act that caused everything to fall down.
We need to learn to put anger into perspective. Firstly, while it may be possible to master your emotions of anger, there are few people on this earth who can claim to have achieved that. Besides, I believe once you know that most anger isn’t caused by the situation at hand you can a) gain some perspective, b) manage it in the moment, and c) choose to address what really is causing the anger in the first place. This new perspective actually can help you take strides towards managing your anger better (but maybe not mastering it).
Master your Emotions of Jealousy
Jealousy comes from insecurity. Tough to hear, I know. To my mind the only answer to how to master your emotions of jealousy is self-love. The more you love and honour yourself the less you concern yourself with how others show up in this life. It’s a strange thing, but when you love yourself fully you learn to trust life more. You trust yourself more.
You may think ‘it doesn’t mean I will trust others more’ but that’s not what it’s about. Self-love gives you a sense of self-reliance. It means that even if someone else lets you down, you know you’ve got your own back. You know you are supported and will never feel alone. It is hard to feel ‘why can’t I have that’ or ‘look how he’s looking at her’ when you feel a sense of confidence in yourself. You know that you are worthy of all good things and don’t begrudge others for what they have.
Master your Emotions of Sadness
Sadness has so many varying stories but, no matter what is causing it, there is so much strength that can come from working through our sadness. We all have different ways that we manage this difficult emotion, but I believe in the power of working with the sadness and discovering the strength and resilience that greets you on the other side.
For me, the most important thing I can say about this is that you NEED to allow yourself to feel. This applies to all of our emotions, but sadness needs processing more than the rest. Sadness needs your own special kind of medicine. When I am feeling sad I take myself away to a quiet room and take a nap. It undoubtedly includes tears and that is GOOD! I release and then rest. And, I wake up feeling so much better. The key is the release. As with any negative emotion, a healthy release is necessary. Don’t try to block your sadness, it wants to be heard. Hear it, feel it and let it go.
Master your Emotions of Love
Ok, so I don’t know that managing or mastering your emotions apply when it comes to love. Neither one feels right. Love just is. Love is like breathing. Even when we feel anger or sorrow, beneath it all we feel love. All the other emotions stem from the need for this one beautiful emotion. So, master it if you must, but I’d rather make it my very best friend. I’d rather wake up every day knowing it is ruler of my heart. I’d rather plaster it on walls and shout it from roof tops.
Love, after all, is what it is all about. So, you tell me. When we experience emotions such as love and we see the power and the beauty behind such emotions, why (oh why) do we want to master these emotions? Why don’t we glorify them for the magnificent role they play in allowing us to fully experience this short moment on this earth. Breathe them all in, cherish them all, learn from them all! And forget trying to be their master.
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