Self Talk: A Thank You Letter To Myself

We all go through our internal struggles with ourselves.  Our self-doubt, questioning everything that we do, whether we are good enough, pretty enough, brave enough.  We are in a constant state of ‘talking ourselves down from a ledge’.  Trying, from a place of concern for our own best interest, to keep ourselves ‘safe’.  But, I think it’s time we cut the crap and start realizing that we are doing more to limit ourselves than we are to protect ourselves.  It’s time to listen to our own self talk and realize its impact on us.

What would happen if we stopped holding ourselves back?

What do we honestly believe, at our core, will happen if we put ourselves out there into the world?  Is there anything so terrible that we can justify keeping ourselves small, tight in our safe little cocoon, because we are afraid.  If you have been reading my blogs and following along with me on my journey you will know that this is a process that I am working through daily.  Trying to understand what has steered me through my life up until now (I am slowly realizing it was mainly fear).  What can I learn from this and where do I go from here?  What I have realized is that instead of chastising myself for every small doubt or complaint, it is time to look back at how far I have come and offer some kind and encouraging words to myself instead.

We are so hard on ourselves, no wonder we struggle to make a change.  It is almost impossible to picture yourself succeeding at something if you cannot practice positive self-talk.  If you were working for a boss and they spoke to you the way that you speak to yourself in your head, you would be mortified!  But, somehow, we tolerate that nasty voice that keeps putting us down.  There are two sides to this.  Firstly, that voice is actually NOT you!  It is years and years of listening to society’s views on how things should be.  The good news about that is it is within your power to STOP listening RIGHT NOW!  Don’t believe a word they say!  You are capable!


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Secondly, you have it in you to change that voice, not just stop listening. 

Work on planting those positive seeds, today!  Start giving yourself a damn chance at success!  Start recognizing all those attributes that make you stand out above the rest.  Pat yourself on the back for something you’ve achieved, no matter how small.  With this in mind, I have decided to write myself a Thank You Letter.  Instead of questioning my worthiness, I have decided to express gratitude for my good traits and accomplishments.  This is my letter:

A Thank You Letter To Myself

‘I thought you were afraid.  I thought you were ‘just you’.  A mother, a wife, an employee.  But, then, I looked again.  You are strong.  In your eyes I see a fire, a love of life that needs to be shared.  I watch you as you stand up, time and again.  I watch, and marvel at your resilience.  You are made of stronger stuff than anyone would know.  I see you struggling.  Life challenges, but you keep going.  I admire you.  I am proud of you.  The work you have put in, to create a life you believe in.  You set out to grow, and grow you have!

But, I know also, that this is just the beginning.  You will continue on your journey, you will learn more about yourself each day.  Growth is part of you now.  I used to think about the person I wanted to be.  I had ideas about what I wanted to look like, how I wanted to act.  Watching you has made this clear, you are all I want to be.  You are brave, kind, strong and resilient.  This life is shaping you and you are ready for it.  Thank you for showing me that I am enough, just as I am.  Thank you for being you, ‘just you’.’

Kind words can change your life

This was not an easy thing to share, but I believe it is a hugely helpful in healing and growth for us all.  Write a letter to yourself today.  Say all the things your heart needs to hear.  Be kind, be forgiving, be understanding.  Be the person you ‘think’ you need someone else to be for you.  You are all you need, but first you must say these kind and loving words to yourself.  You need to let your soul know that it is okay.  That you are okay, just as you are.

This might not be an easy thing for you to do, but be patient with yourself.  Find one kind thing to say.  List some of your strengths and thank yourself for them.  Are you committed, resilient, brave?  Take the time to really talk yourself up!  Your life will begin to change when you start to talk to yourself like you matter.  Talk to yourself like you would to someone ‘important’ because, after all, who is more important in your life than you?

Don’t be a victim of negative self-talk – remember YOU are listening – Bob Proctor

A great book to read to help you get out of your head is Girl, Wash Your Face

My go-to for inspiration and personal development is Gaia

If you enjoyed this blog you might enjoy reading my blog  Journaling: A Path To Self-Discovery 

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