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October 14, 2025

The “Good Girl” Trap: How Pleasing Others Keeps You Stuck

Are you a good girl? Have you ever thought of this idea of being a good girl in any way other than positive? Well, I’m here to question the ‘good girl’ paradigm.

Let’s talk about what it means to be the good girl. The good girl is the one that listens, am I right? She’s the one that does what she’s told, behaves perfectly and is ‘easy to be around.’ She makes everyone ‘else’ feel comfortable. She doesn’t talk back, or ask questions, and she certainly doesn’t voice her own opinion. Sounds very much like a good girl doesn’t she? But does she sound like a happy girl? Or, has she been living her life in the shadows? Has she been quiet, well behaved and hollow inside?

Sadly, this is something that many of us don’t even think about. We so badly want to belong. We want to fit in. To be liked. We will do almost anything, include silencing our own voice, for the sake of being acceptable to others. Who are others? You know: the ones that make the rules, the ones that have the strong opinions, that want things done their way.

September 26, 2025

What Do You Want From This One Precious Life?

Have you ever really asked yourself this question? What do you want from this one precious life? What do you really, really want?

Often it feels like life has already decided for us, am I right? Like it’s all been plotted out for us ahead of time. Do we actually get a choice? Doesn’t feel like it. But, I think with self-awareness we can begin to understand why we feel this way and begin a shift towards conscious choices for our own lives. First, lets look at the reasons we are not ‘tuned in’ to what we want from life.

September 5, 2025

Authentic Joy: Are you having any Fun?

As I sit here, I am grateful for the lessons, the growth, and the journey back to me. But, I didn’t always feel this way. In short, I forgot who I am. I forgot that there once was a girl called Stephanie. There once was a girl who just was, without expectation. Fun loving and free spirited. This is my journey back to her.

August 17, 2025

8 Ways to Create a Kinder World

What does a kinder world look like? I’m going to get right to the tough stuff here. A kinder world isn’t about what everyone else does. How they behave, how they show up for everyone else. Well, it is, BUT as long as we are focused on what everyone else is doing we are not focused on what we’re doing. And that is where the solution lies! We need to recognize that we are the problem, solution and change-makers. Each. And. Every. One. Of. Us.

So, I’ll ask again. What does a kinder world look like?

June 2, 2025

6 Ways to Answer the Question: What Do I Want?

I’ve always found it fascinating that we don’t even know what we want for ourselves. The question ‘what do I want?’ plagues us. It niggles at our brains and somehow we struggle to answer it. Shouldn’t we instinctively have the answers to this question? Well, sadly, no. It’s a loaded question after all. There are so many layers to it. So many expectations that come with it. So many influences that can change the answer.